Counselors With Personal Issues: Empathetic Healer Or Impaired Provider?

It’s an open secret among mental health professionals that many of us have entered the field due to our own personal issues. It may be because we have experienced for ourselves the incredible transformation brought about through the healing power of counseling, or it may be because we have unresolved issues that can only be faced indirectly by helping others. Whatever the reason, it’s important to “check yourself before you wreck yourself,” as Bethanny Frankel says, or rather, before you wreck others.

The best counselors are those who have been in therapy. Not because they are irrevocably broken, but because they have been through the process. They know what it is like to sit in front of a complete stranger and talk about your most intimate and painful issues. They believe in the process because they have seen how it can work.

On the other hand, what doesn’t work quite as well is counselors with current issues. I have observed addicts go into addictions counseling, bereaved partners suddenly interested in grief counseling, and married people who no longer love their partners becoming marriage counselors or sex therapists. I’m not saying these people don’t want to be helpful. I’m saying that because they haven’t addressed their own issues, they are not in a good position to help others. The risk that they might project their own feelings about their own difficulties onto their clients is too great.

Why am I telling all of you this? If you are considering a career in the mental health services, take a long honest look at yourself. Are you choosing the career because it’s truly a calling, or are you choosing it as a way to address your own issues?

For many reasons, those of us in the counselor education role strongly recommend individual therapy at some point during your academic career. The usual reason is to get a better understanding of just how difficult it is to initiate the counseling process, as I’ve already mentioned. And that’s reason enough. However, counseling can also be invaluable in helping you to uncover insights into your own motivations. Further, any issues that are uncovered can be treated during the counseling process.

Because you are the main “tool” you will use to work with clients, it is absolutely essential that you are in good working order. This includes sound psychological health.

As an interesting side note, a quick google and google scholar search for “mentally ill mental health counselors” came up with nil. Instead, the search results consisted of services that mental health counselors provide. Therefore, it seems to me we must start to raise awareness about this important topic.

Yours in the Joy of Knowledge,

Barbara LoFrisco

Top Seven Things You Can Do To Avoid Graduate School Burnout

Graduate school can be challenging for anyone, but learning how to be a counselor presents its own unique challenges. Because we are learning how to listen to, think about, and talk to people with emotional problems we are at higher risk for burnout. So, before you start classes, read these top ten ways in which you can avoid burning yourself preventing burnoutout:
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Discover Your Theoretical Orientation

Your theoretical orientation is one of the most important decisions you will make as a counselor. Right along with your area of specialty and populations you serve, your theoretical orientation plays a large role in determining your professional identity. Or, as my professor would put it, “What’s in your toolbox?”

Your “toolbox” is your personal collection of interventions that you can pull out as needed when you are treating clients. But, before you determine what’s in your toolbox, you’ll have to decide what your theoretical orientation is. This is because you have to understand why something is broken and what the problem is before you can choose a tool. You wouldn’t get out your hammer before first deciding that the problem was a loose nail, right? So you must understand the problem first.

Deciding on a theoretical orientation is sort of like dating. You may have to try a few different theories before you find the right fit, so don’t marry the first one you see. It’s probably better to keep your options open until you have more experience. And, just as in long-term relationships, your tastes may change over time; so what was a great theory to you in your early career may not be such a great fit for you as you grow and change.

Your master’s program will go over counseling theories in detail, and will help guide you in choosing a theory, so I won’t go into a lot of detail here. Rather, I’ll just give you some ideas to reflect on so that you can be better prepared.

Counselors generally choose personal theories based on which theory makes the most sense to them, and which techniques feel the most natural. Since a counseling theory is an explanation for human behavior, you must buy into that explanation in order to use the techniques of that theory effectively. There are over 400 counseling theories, with maybe 20 or 30 commonly used. Your master’s program will typically teach about 10 or so theories to you in-depth. Just keep in mind there are many, many more.

It is important to note that there really isn’t any comprehensive meta-research that tells us which theory is most effective. Some issues seem to respond better to some interventions.  For example, the research indicates that anxiety and depression respond best to cognitive-behavioral interventions (CBT). However, CBT also has the most research behind it, whereas other theories haven’t been studied nearly as extensively. Therefore, CBT may or may not be better than other less researched theories. So, when choosing a personal theory, consider the empirical evidence but don’t let that be your only guide.

You can also choose more than one theory. Yes, you can mix and match! For example, you may decide that a mixture of psychodynamic and person-centered approaches is the way to go, This is called being “eclectic.” But don’t just mix and match randomly. The techniques of the theories must compliment each other in some way; do not mix techniques that counteract each other.

Your work setting is another consideration in determining what’s in your toolbox. If you’re in private practice and take insurance, or you are working in an agency setting, you may be required to use a particular theory. Panic not. Why not just try that theory? See if it fits? You may surprise yourself. Who knows? Sometimes the universe puts things in our path we do not understand so that we will try things we never intended to do. That said, however, if you really feel in your heart that you don’t believe in the prescribed theory, then you may want to seriously consider changing venues.

Remember, your theoretical orientation is never cast in stone. In fact, as a licensed practitioner you will be required to receive training each year. Some of this training may be on new techniques, even new theories. Whereas you should consider each tool carefully before adding it, don’t close the lid on your toolbox.

Yours in the Joy of Knowledge,

Barb LoFrisco

 

 

Why Conversion Therapy Is Controversial

Conversion therapy, or psychotherapy to repair homosexuality, is controversial. If you believe that conversion therapy, homosexuality, gay issueshomosexuality is due to biological factors, then conversion therapy really won’t work. But, if it is true that homosexuality is a choice, conversion therapy could be a possibility.
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